**(I want to make note....GUYS this is ALSO for YOU. Just replace yourself with the girl stuff and realize this applies to you as well.)
The other day while
wasting time on Pinterest... I came across a quote that really stuck out to me..
The other day while
"We accept the love we think we deserve..."
When you think about the love you deserve, what is it? Who is it? What kind of love is it?
Do you have high expectations for your love? Or are you okay with settling?
(by settling I mean just knowing in your heart that you aren't happy, but you choose to stay.)
If you are anything like me, which I'm sure all of us are alike, sometimes we think that we don't deserve good.
Why is this?
I think a lot of it has to do with words. The words that people say to us. Actions that those people take towards us. I know I talk SO MUCH about words and actions on here...but it's only because I have seen the power behind words. I have seen how they can literally break someone or make them. A lot of times we start to see ourselves in those words. You're fat. You're ugly. You're teeth are ugly. What's that scar? Why is your hair so blonde? You're a size what? You are too skinny. You are not good enough.
These are words that are hurtful. These are words that tear people apart. These are the words that get stuck in minds and make people believe that they are not good enough. Which obviously leads us to thinking that there is no such thing as "better" for us when it comes to a man.
When you don't believe in yourself, why should anyone else believe in you??
Once you start doubting yourself and truly believing that you are not good enough that hits you hard. It lowers your self esteem. You fight and wrestle with yourself because you feel as though you are not beautiful. You think to yourself, WHY in the world would a good guy want to be with you?
Let me tell you friends,
In God's eyes we are perfect. We are flawless.
If someone isn't friends with you because of the way you look, then that is their issue. Not yours. Plain to see you wouldn't want them as a friend anyways.
Don't let what a past love said or did affect you today.
When you love someone, everything else doesn't matter. It's almost like you see that person, but you're not really seeing them. You are seeing their heart and everything you love about them...their flaws, etc.
I believe that flaws are what make us beautiful. Why want to be perfect? Why have to look perfect? Society has put such an image in our heads that women have to look a certain way or they aren't sexy, or beautiful. Men have to look a certain way. Pressures from the world cause these words and cause these issues.
It breaks my heart to see someone who doesn't think they are beautiful. We are ALL beautiful. I do not care how big or small my boobs are. I do not care if I have a flat booty or a big booty. I don't care. I don't care if you are a size 4 with a DD. That doesn't make you any prettier than any other girl.
Your worth and your beauty doesn't come from your looks. Flaws, confidence, self worth, what is in your heart. That is where it comes from. That is what makes you beautiful.
Usually when people have something negative to say about you, it's because they are either unhappy with themselves or they are jealous.
Period. There is nothing else to it. Let them handle their issue and you don't worry about their words.
To truly and completely feel comfortable in your own skin, you have to accept the fact that you're not perfect. That not one person on this planet is near perfect. Your self worth isn't determined by the world. As much as society thinks they can tell YOU if you are beautiful or not...well they can't. Don't let them. Know your worth. Know where your beauty comes from.
Once this is reached, your world becomes beautiful.
So, when it comes to thinking about the Love we deserve... you deserve it.
Don't let anyone tell you differently. There is someone out there who is waiting for you. Someone who dreams of your smile. The person who prays for you. The person who God has for you.
Don't settle. You deserve it all.
Remember...you are beautiful.
YOU are worthy.